I am a very judgemental person, I think part of the problem is that I grew up in a church where people, (Oh how can I put this nicely)…. well… were ruthlessly judgemental, I mean they were not playing! This taught me to sort of look at people in black and white, without an understanding and a level of sympathy to the human side of us all. I have since learned that people are usually a mixed bag. The most wonderful people who are just so nice and so kind will do things sometimes that will shock you. I have been watching a lot of real crime stories of serial killers(pretty dark right!) and their families are often very shocked that there was no way that their loved one could have possibly done such a horrible thing.
I never understood this but as I got older and met enough people I realised that I couldn’t take one incident and box someone into a section of good or bad because as people we are all trying to go through life the best way we know how, as one person put it doing the best we can with whatever hand we have been dealt. So I have learned to appreciate people and take them as they are, human beings trying to be better, failing sometimes but trying just the same.
Currently reading – Don’t Settle for Safe: Embracing the Uncomfortable to Become Unstoppable by Sarah Jakes Roberts.